This is a guest post written by Cephas Tope for Goodlifezen
Has this ever happened to you?
You’ve got a perfect idea; one that could transform the way people do things and change your life forever!
You immediately scribble it down, start doing everything necessary to turn it into a valuable product and get it out to the world.
But in the middle of working on your stunning idea, you start facing some crucial problems; life starts getting in the way, and soon you decide to stop trying and quit.
You quit because you think your idea wasn’t as groundbreaking as you first thought or maybe you won’t be able to gain an edge on your competitors or the thoughts are just an illusion, and nothing is real.
Sure, it’s possible, but there’s another reason why your idea doesn’t become successful.
You just weren’t persistent enough.
Why Most People Fail In Life
You see, the reason why most people fail and never amount to anything in life is because they have refused to persist, to hang in there just a little longer.
Most people deliberate on the word “But” so much that it holds them back from the place where nothing is guaranteed, nothing is real, but yet, everything is possible.
Asking questions like:
But what if I fail? What if I am not good enough? What if everyone laughs at me? What if the people I love leave and I’m left alone? And the answer to these questions is…. Yes! Most of the time you will fail, sometimes it will feel like you’re not good enough, sometimes people will mock you and what you do, and some may eventually end up leaving. And then what?
You see, all the fears mentioned above don’t count, in fact, it’s one way that nature shapes you into achieving your goals, if only you keep persisting because the experience is the teacher.
You’ve got to decide if you are going to keep trying or quit. The primary difference between winners and losers is simple: Winners never quit and quitters never win.
The good news is if you want to archive your goals, fight through all the obstacles in your way, and sail to the land of recognition.
Here are some tips you need to put into practice.
1. Develop Contagious Patience
This means to develop the ability to respond effectively to all problems and setbacks you face in life.
Because it’s not how far you fall that counts, but rather, how high you bounce back toward any challenges in life. Remember the warrior’s creed, “I will lay me down to bleed for a while, then rise to fight again.”
Failure is not a final destination, it’s a speed bump on the road to success and only patient people fully understand this. Don’t be surprised or shocked when things go wrong. Your best-laid plans will often fall apart, but your ability to be patient and look for ways to power through will help you so much in the long run.
So, take a deep breath, pick up the pieces and continue onward.
2. Face Your Fears
Grab a piece of paper, number it from one through ten. At the top, title it, ‘What are you so afraid of?’ This is the list of your ultimate fears, your worst case scenario, perhaps a doomsday list.
The list of every “but” you’re pondering over; they are the ultimate things that scare you silly and you’ve got ten minutes to write them down.
Done with that? Now let face it, fears on the inside; in your mind, can be like sap and remain stuck becoming very difficult to remove. But writing your fears down? Visible, changeable, and cross-out-able when one of the fears is vanquished.
Take some time to walk through each of your fears line by line, and ask yourself the following questions; is it an emotional fear? Is the fear realistic? Or worth planning your life around? Bring them to the forefront and have a conversation with yourself as you walk through each one.
Once you have finished with this, write a short note for each line, listing the one thing you could do to remove the grip this fear has over your life. Now is decision time – decide right now the ones that stay and the ones that go.
Your ability to confront fears, deal with fears, and take corrective action in spite of your fear is the key to becoming unstoppable in life and finding true happiness and success.
3. Focus More On The Solution
Sometimes in life, we don’t face problems, what we face are challenges. Challenges become a problem once they are not quickly dealt with. Instead of thinking about the challenges you’re facing, start thinking of a solution to the challenge; a way out often referred to by others as thinking outside the box.
To begin building confidence, look for the good in every situation you face because when you look hard enough for something good, you will always find something good.
If you train your mind to think positive in every situation, you will automatically become positive, optimistic, and in full control.
The difference between success and failure is that a person who fails will feel sorry for himself and quit when things go wrong during a situation, while successful people look for a valuable lesson to learn in every situation and move on.
4. Find The Gift And Be Unstoppable
Normal Vincent Peale wrote, “When God wants to send you a gift, he wraps it up in a problem. The bigger the gift, the bigger the problem and you can only find the gift if you persist enough and fight through.”
So, instead of focusing on the problem, focus on the gift and occasionally you will end up learning something valuable in dealing with a problem that will lead to long-term success.
“Within every problem or obstacle lies the seed of an equal or greater opportunity or benefit. Your job is to find it.” Napoleon Hill
Finding the ‘seed’ must be an accurate description of you whenever you face problems or difficulties. Every day of your life, embrace the problems that you must solve because each problem has its own reward.
By disciplining yourself to persist in the face of all adversity, you will become unstoppable until you eventually become a force of nature or a force to be reckoned with.
Write down your goal clearly, make a detailed plan of action to accomplish it, and tell yourself that failure is not an option.